What would you do?

Remember how I said, my mind is like a superhighway and that little car on it takes an emergency exit occasionally?  It did again this morning while having coffee, browsing Facebook.  

A suggested friend came up and I remembered meeting these people.  

2 years ago, R and I took the kids to the local fair and ran into people he knew.  R started a conversation and introduced me and the kids to them.  They were a very sweet couple.  We all talked for a few minutes, and we parted ways.  I asked R who they were, and he said, 'Do you remember B? That's her sister and brother-in-law.' I smiled and told him how nice they were, then I asked him, 'Is she okay? Have y'all spoken?' He said he didn't know, and he hadn't spoken to her in a while.  

It was soon after I tried to send her a message on Facebook; to let her know I met them and to invite her to our home.  R and her had a friend-only relationship and he use to talk about her a lot.  Especially considering she's got a great Dane like we do.  Nothing on the search.  Like some people, I had an alias account in 23' and I used it to search her name.  She came up and that told me I was blocked, but for what?  The odd thing was, she'd blocked R too.

I did tell him this and he asked me if I ever interacted with her.  I did once, and it was because he'd liked one of her photos and I did too.  That's it.  I've never talked to her, but I have been around during one of their phone conversations.  It didn't bother me, and she knew I was in the same room.  

Regardless, I was blocked by someone I'd never met or spoken to and so was R who had a good relationship with this person for years.  What I found even more interesting was the fact she'd not only blocked me on Facebook, but she blocked me on TikTok.  How do I know this?  Because before I'd used my alias Facebook to search her, I went to TikTok.  Why?  I was hoping to reach out to her and ask if there was something I did wrong.  BLOCKED.

I went to Instagram and surprisingly I was not blocked on that platform.  I did send her a message expressing my concern and hoping to fix the situation because I was confused.  I told her how highly R spoke of her, and if she'd reach out.  Nothing.  The message was never seen, but she didn't block me either. 

Don't get me wrong, but it raised red flags to me.  Have I brought it all up to R? Yes.  He was just as confused as I was.  I did tell him I reached out but he didn't lash out.  Instead, he asked if I'd gotten a reply.  Nothing.  I asked him if there was something they had in the past, and if so it was before me so I didn't have the right to get upset.  He said they'd always been just friends, and she was basically married to someone.  I forgot to include, she lives states away so it was never a thought to me.

Today, it took me back seeing her brother-in-law come across my suggested friends.  I went back to that message I sent, and it was still unseen.  She could not be using Instagram, or she doesn't care to see my message.  I respect that; however, I still remain confused.  The questions still remain in my head of what happened.  

Do I want to know? Yes.  Should I reach out again? Absolutely not.  The lingering questions will be there till I know the truth.  Both R and I think she had feelings for him, which would justify her actions, but from a woman's point of view, there's more to the story.